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making a statement

Rhiannon did a little shopping for some clothes for Brooklynn. Some things like boots and skirts are items she can wear now. Other things like swimsuits are items that were on clearance that she can grow into.

Everything came in one box. Brooklynn likes to open boxes and put things on.

This is the result.

Fashionista

I used to roll my eyes when I would see kids in outfits they obviously picked out themselves out in public, thinking what kind of horrible parent lets their kid out dressed like that.

Karma. And picking your battles.

starting them younger all the time

On Monday evening, after what turned out to be a very long day at work for both Rhiannon and me, after Rhiannon lost track of time after her very long day at work and ended up staying at school working longer than she anticipated, after we realized that morning that we were not prepared to throw everything in the crock pot for the day and therefore had nothing planned for supper, and after Monday decided to follow Sunday (how dare it)…

After that, we both got home, ate a quick supper, and got everyone back in the car. It was dark. Brooklynn doesn’t care for rides in the dark too much because she can’t see anything and it was in the evening. We weren’t going to a game, and Dad wasn’t going to work separately and it wasn’t a weekend, so what were we doing.

We told her we were going to her school. All of us. Mommy, Daddy, and her. School, hooray, right? School is fun, you like school, and so we’ll all go and it will be wonderful.

Brooklynn cried because she thought we were going to drop her off at school and leave her there and, well, apparently her Monday had been long as well because school didn’t seem like someplace she wanted to be.

Before I forget to mention it, Rhiannon and I went to a parent-teacher conference on Monday. For Brooklynn.

Brooklynn is two. It seems weird to me too.

We sat and talked with her teacher, Miss Jenny. We talked about how she loves to sing and dance and do yoga. We talked about how wonderful it is that she’s fully potty-trained and how wonderfully ironic it was that earlier that day Brooklynn had an accident for the first time in a couple months.

We sat in very tiny chairs around a very low table and looked at an official looking report card. It had many sections and skills on it, most of which Brooklynn has mastered. This was noted by an “A” for Always, so Brooklynn go mostly A’s. Some of the items had an “S” for sometimes, which means that she sometimes does them. Things like tracing a circle and putting her own coat on.

Brooklynn likes to draw in strong bold straight line scribbles. Last night, she drew a plane that consisted of one teeny-tiny marker mark on the paper. The closest she comes to drawing a circle is when you ask her to draw a monkey and she manages to produce a sickly looking oval which is promptly covered by strong straight lines.

She doesn’t put her coat on. At 6:15 in the morning, we are typically trying to convince her to either finish her cereal by herself or that right at that moment would not be the best time to attempt to open a banana entirely on her own and that no, we’re not opening it for her, we’re just fixing it because the banana was broke. Heaven help us when “Daddy’s fixing it” is no longer a good excuse for assisting her. Waiting for a two year old to put her own coat on is very low on the priority list at that point.

So she doesn’t do everything on the list to perfection, but she’s close. We hear how she sticks up for her friends if someone is being mean and how she loves to read and play and dance. We saw her demonstrate the “upside down coat” method of putting her coat on and how she likes to hold on to something when attempting to stand on one foot.

In other words, we found out that we have a normal and seemingly well-adjusted two year old. And then we bought a couple books from the book fair to take home.

The past two nights, she’s taken her new penguin book to bed with her.

Last night, Rhiannon started working on tracing circles. We’re talking about giving her more time to make sure that she can try to put her own coat on.

Brooklynn, welcome to the next 16 years of your life. Try not to grow up too fast.

A little Meta

oh my goodness

The title of this post is the most recent commonly heard phrase around our house.

“Oh my goodness, it dark outside.”

“Oh my goodness, the sun come up.”

“I dropped it, oh my goodness.”

When told that Mom wasn’t home yet: “Oh my goodness, I miss her.”

“I lose it, oh my goodness.”

“Oh my goodness, I fall down.”

As of right now, the only phrase in close competition is some variation of “What’s that?”, only pronounce more like Wazzat, or What Dis.

Driving in the car, every building – Wazzat?

Looking through magazines and catalogs, pointing at almost every picture – What Dis?

Last week, Brooklynn pointed at a Walgreens. “Wazzat?”

“That’s a pharmacy.”

“Fa-ma-see?”

“Yep. It’s like a drug store where people get medicine.”

“No. No drug store! It’s fa-ma-see.”

Ok. I will consider my first answer more carefully in the future. I’ve been waiting for the time when Brooklynn becomes more expressive and inquisitive. Now that it’s here, I’m not so sure.

why does she know these words

Rockstar Series

Yes, her hair is getting out of control, but it gives her the ability to express her attitude by pushing it back out her face and sighing, as if to wonder to the universe why she has to put up with her parents and their constant questioning of the state of her bladder. Kind of like having a mini-teenager in the house who questions every decision you make.

Last night, after I asked her if she needed to use the potty1, she told me, “Daddy, no be roo!”

Roo?

“No roo, Daddy! No be bauzzee!”

And she turned and stomped off.

I asked her, “Don’t be rude and bossy?”

Yep, no rude, no bossy. She must have picked that up at school. Now, the question is did she overhear it, or was it directed specifically at her. As much as I would like to believe it’s the former, well, see the above paragraph about living with a mini-teenager.

  1. And she rarely does. If she needs to go, she’ll tell you. It’s working out for the most part, so we don’t push her about it.

getting smarter

I take for granted how quickly Brooklynn learns things. I expect her to understand the nuances of sarcasm and grimace a little when she is unable to communicate her feelings and resorts to crying. She can talk reasonable well and I tend to expect her to comprehend our high level communications.

And at the same time, I expect to still be able to distract her with something shiny and a “Hey, look over there” once in a while.

Last week, I picked up a mailing envelope that Rhiannon wanted, one of the manilla bubble wrap type of things. I had it in my hand when I walked in the door, and since Brooklynn typically greets me when I walk in each evening, she saw it. I’ve gotten much better at putting away my headphones, phone, and anything else I don’t want her to see before I get out of the car, but the envelope didn’t cross my radar as something that needed hiding. She wanted it, and I told her that she should go show it to Mom.

She took it, ran over to Rhiannon, and then wanted to open it. You know the stage when kids are more interested in wrapping paper and boxes than they are by what is actually contained inside? We’re past that. Any box needs to be opened, now, because who knows what magical things might be in there. In this case, there was nothing magical. There was nothing as all, seeing as how it was an empty package.

Brooklynn had a tiny brush for a ‘My Little Pony’ laying out on the floor, so I reached behind her, grabbed it, hid the brush in my palm, stuck my hand in the envelope, and pulled it out like the brush had been in there the whole time. She has really liked the brush recently, so she was excited. “Horsie brush! Horsie brush!”

She gave up the envelope without ripping it up or otherwise ruining it with no complaints, and I was just about to congratulate myself on my ability to make everyone happy while still getting the desired result from a situation when Brooklynn, brush still in hand, said, “Two brushes!” and turned around, looking right where I had just picked the brush up from behind her.

She knew that her brush was there before, and since another one came out of the envelope, she should have more than one.

Then I got to try and tell her why she did not, in fact, have two brushes and that I had slid the brush in the envelope without her seeing me pick it up.

Great. Now I’m the bad guy1, just because someone had to go getting all intelligent on us.

  1. Yes, this is a Tangled quote, for those of you into Disney movies.

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